Indonesia and Self Ageism!

Via tumblr

We are all born with a time limit; a conjoined, invisible hourglass attached to us. It is Time that has essentially created ageism; it dictates to us the phases of our life and as such, the order and outcome of it, thus adopting a co-master to our own fate.

These are the words spoken in a post titled Time |vs| Infinity, by “DiaryOfADeludedHeart

Again, I found this post when I went to revisit someone who once came to visit me and left some footprints behind. Actually I hate this kind of blogger, because they write better than me. They write in this most high literary, melodically written words that make me feels sooo low classed. *rolling eyes* Ha ha. But there’s a teeny little flick on my heart that tells me: “NO you are not hating them. You love them. And you NOT low classed Val, maybe you are not as high in literature or a lyrical writer but you are great too in your own way.” (Oops, here comes my high extreme level of self-confidence!!!^^) said:

Ageism is a form of discrimination and prejudice, particularly experienced by seniors. Most seniors are mentally and physically active regardless of age with a great deal to contribute. However, societal norms marginalize seniors, treat them with disrespect, make them feel unwelcome and otherwise generalize as if they were all the same.

It is highly unlikely that you will find this phenomenon in Indonesia. Here, the youth mostly treat the elderly with utmost respect in every way. Maybe this is because it’s in our social culture that from generation to generation we keep seeing age and wrinkles as a sign of wisdom and maturity in everything. Not like Western society that since humanity came to the surface, they began to respect people by its people quality.

But even then, I believe that the social culture isn’t the real cause of this discrimination, because they do it to themselves.

I have this Aunt that can’t driving a car, motorbike (one that popular in Indonesia), and doesn’t even know how to ride a bicycle.

Like Miss Baker said on Time |vs| Infinity:

Whether time dictates that we are ‘young‘ or ‘old’, cognitively, we just are.

Via Red and Black

Our body may be of an 80 year old grandma, a 54 year old aunty, or a young teenage mother, but we are just US. My 88 years old grandma once said:

It just my body that stopped working like it used to. My mind and my wants are still as great and as much as you have.

She said that when she fought with dad five years ago (I still remember because it’s become as famous as a Stephen Hawking quote to my family). No one gave her money because she kept using it to buy ‘togel’, which is the Indonesian equivalent to the lottery. She said that she wanted to buy gold for each of her children by wining the togel one day, before she dies. But when she has no money to buy the togel, she simply goes to her old farm on the countryside without telling anyone. That’s why my dad fought with her.

The thing is that time have no affect on the mind. It’s ageless. That’s how I know deep down my aunt still wants to learn how to drive herself even though she always insists: “No its fine, I am too old to learn how to drive now. I have David and Minggus (which are her sons) and Minggus’s dad will take me wherever I want.”

Around four years ago, during a long holiday after I graduated high school and entered college, I taught my 54 year old aunt how to drive a bicycle and a motorbike (not a car though, because I was still a bit clumsy myself at the time.)

My aunt was just one of a zillion (I’m over again hi hi^^) Indonesian people that are victims of self-ageism. But she is also one of a zillion that has a wonderful niece who helped her defeat it. Many people out there however, are still victims, still stuck, and still feel “I’m too old for this”.

Miss Baker said:

The human body takes the punches of the years, but it does not reflect our perpetual, ageless mind. We can do away with the limitations and do whatever we want to do at any point in our lives. We are never too young or too old. It is never too late or too soon. It is simply whenever you want it to be. So go forth and be wise beyond your years… or be young at heart; for better or worse, ‘youth’ is no margin.

I just want you to know it guys! Once again: We are never too young or too old. It is never too late or too soon. It is simply whenever you want it to be.

If you now are a High School girl that’s learning Differential Partial Degree 2, no it’s not too soon, keep at it! It’s great to prepare! He he

Or if you are a 35 year old Mother who has just filled in the university form, just do it, send it, it’s never too late.

But guys, if you are an 11 year old wanting to smoke cigarettes, don’t even bring my article as a defense. It’s not meant in that way!

Anyway, yeah, in a good way, stop making your boundary by age! Fuck age phases that people stick to. Who cares if people say it’s too late to go to college at your age? If you do take more time to just think about what people say, you will delay it even more.

SO JUST GO AND DO IT! Especially if you are a Christian who believes that they only have one life; I mean if you belong to a religion that promises reincarnation, maybe you can afford to do that in another life. But if you are Christian, then you just have this once, and you should do it now!

Anyway that’s my thoughts, what’s yours? I want to know, so put it on comment down below!

Love, hugs, and kisses. . .

Vallendri Arnout xoxoxoxo ^^

6 thoughts on “Indonesia and Self Ageism!

  1. winona571

    Tulisan yang bagus… suka banget!
    Knp aku bilang mencoba hal gila sebelum umur 30 itu mendingan… Karena ada temanku yang baru melakukan hal yang merusak setelah di atas umur 30. Akibatnya dia kehilangan pekerjaan. Ya wajar… memang dia lalaiin pekerjaan dia kok. Orang bilang dia itu “nakal” nya telat. Hahaha….

    Errr… jadi ingat, dulu pernah janji… kalau bisa balik ke Belgia buat Phd, mau belajar naik sepeda. 😀

    Liked by 1 person

    1. He he danke:)

      Hmm,, bener juga sih, mending sekaranglah muasin gila nya. Kalo nakalnya telat kan ribet juga apalagi sampe kejadian kayak temenmu… itu fase nya udah lewat kayaknya. ha ha

      Dan go go go!! Sok gih belajar sepedaan. Seru tau…^^


  2. This is wonderful! thank you so much for using my piece for inspiration. As long as there are people out there in the world, who help their aunts ride motorcycles and can see that people are not bound by age, then the future is in good hands.

    Liked by 1 person

What you think guys?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s